I was just wondering... We always celebrate the end of everything - may it be schooling, graduation, education. We always celebrate it. Even when someone ends their carreer, there is always a party, to celebrate the past.
What happens when someone ends his life? Why isn't it a happy occasion?
It is not so because of selfish reasons, - we only think about the void that is created in our own life rather than celebrating the life that has just ended.
Of course, when someone dies, everyone will and should shed a few tears as they will miss them, - this sure does depict love, but once we are 'over' the sorrow caused by missing someone, we should think about celebrating the life of that person.
Death is, and has always been a very touchy issue. It scares everyone and thats why people don't dare to celebrate it. And if someone does dare to celebrate it, he will be considered a madman.
Why did I write this shit?
We can never find out what happens after dying till we die. So till I die, I'd rather believe in this, which makes me celebrate and not mourn the death of people than mourning death of dear ones which seems to be the trend(sorry for that word!).
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There is a quote... I can't really remember the exact thing... but it basically says that people celebrate birth and mourn death because they are not the person who it is happening to. It may sound cynical but I found it quite amusing. Another thought I had which was a bit weird was that what if life is just a big joke played on us by whatever higher powers and death is like the punch-line. Because it would be pretty funny if you think about it - all the work and struggling and worrying... none of it mattered and in the end you're just dead. I think you would have to die to find it funny.
There is another point behind saying this. I honestly believe in it and hence, I can deal with death of people dear to me much better than I would have.
We can never find out what happens after dying till we die. So till I die, I'd rather believe in this, which makes me celebrate and not mourn the death of people than mourning death of dear ones which seems to be the trend(sorry for that word!).
hey ,
i believe that people celebrate the end not merely because it is the end but also because itis a new beginning . you celebrate your birthday coz yoiur a year oldr , not beacuse you are a year closer to dying .Death is nothing but the end of life as we know it but for all you know , the beginning of another adventure . death should truly be celebrated for it is freedom of the ultimate kind . Thos who fear death are those who fear life itself . They have not let themselves go , they are not "free" . They have bound themselves to the material world with various ties . And unless we as human beings can truly be free of oursleves , our egos etc , we can never understand and celebrate death for what it is .
i hope this made sense to u , if it didnt , u can ask me urself ,id be happy to clear any doubts !
What is wrong with mourning??? For example suppose the person you loved is leaving you and going abroad for some reason or the other..would you celebrate for the simple reason that he/she will do very well there...But you'll never get to see him/her again. Well its the same when a loved one one dies you are going to mourn for the simple reason that you wont be having that person with you again. The whole system of mourning a person's death is selfish but comon there is nothing wrong in being so in such a case..And Einstein(?) you follow this belief of yours about celebrating death (in which i find nothing wrong)..also for selfish reasons saying that it helps you cope with the death of people dear to you...selfishness isnt a wrong quality as many think so...after all we live our lives for ourselves first...
Yes, I believe in celebrating death for very selfish reasons... definitely... Actually, I have a problem with the word selfishness, I'll be writing about it soon...
There is nothing wrong with anything anonymous(how long you gonna play this game? its okay... you're a good commenter, you can keep doing it)... There is nothing wrong with mourning at all...
Just that I do not wish to do it. I do not want to mourn over something that is gone, and that is why I am preparing myself in such a way...
Life, is a mystery... I hope that you would agree that there are no rules by which one should live life. Everyone can have their own rules. So.. I got this thought, and I made the thought a rule in my life. Of course I will cry when someone dear passes away, but after that...
I will be happy for them. I will not shudder every time someone mentions them, I will be able to talk about them freely... Isn't that good?
Whenever I write something, I am hardly trying to prove something wrong or right, coz nothing is wrong or right. I am just trying to question a system of set beliefs so that I can get reason to believe or not believe in them... or who knows, people like you, who read the blog, might benefit from them.
If you think there is a disadvantage in believing in what I do... Then please do tell me... coz I dont wanna find out later that I was being a jackass in thinking this way....
Einstein, celebrating death is less selfish than mourning. There is no such thing as true selflesness and maybe that is why people mourn. Because they want to hold on to the person they love, without whom they would be lonely. So I guess mourning is a sort of selfish thing because that person is moving on and starting a new adventure or whatever happens after, while you are still stuck here wishing that you had that person with you. It is almost like love where you feel depressed when you have been dumped while you should actually feel happy if the guy/girl who dumped you has found someone they are happier with.
Btw you have 2 anonymous people here, I made the 1st comment, not the 2nd one.
-Anonymous Entity
reminds me of our convo..like a step ahead of it..remember the one bout ma cousin? neat..like the theory..supports my belief of always looking ahead and moving forward..keep going buddy..
Hi,
Celebrating death is no new idea. Indian philosophy has it too. In fact, there are customs where you celebrate it just like marriage, invite everyone over for lunch/dinner and celebrate.
But, this is generally done, when a person has lived most of his life, say, at the age of 80 years or so, more than the average life span.
My grandfather (and your great grand father) wanted to celebrate his death in such a way. He expressed his desire to my dad (your grandfather) when he was 76. He lived to be 78. He wanted the whole village(Mulund) invited and the celebration should be such that noone in village need to cook that day. It is known as "Dhumadia Bandh" invitation. Literally it means that noone should light a fire to cook anything in their kitchen/home on the day.
There is also a concept where you can celebrate your death while you are still alive. This is because you want to witness the celebration. So my dad wanted to fulfill my grandpa's wish and make him witness this ceremony. This concept is known as "JIVTU JAGATIYU". It literally means, you quit the world while you are still alive.
We went through this process. Let me tell you, from all the accounts that I keep hearing even till date, he was a very happy man on the day (I was less than 5 years old and your father was not even born).
So, you know, may be all these thoughts and ideas are coming to you through the DNA that got programmed in your great grand-father.
Thought, I should put in my thoughts here.
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